You know better, so Damn, try to do THAT!!

If I hear one more, He just won't act right, He don't listen, He ain't shit, I am tired of His shit!!! Have you ever thought that maybe you Ain't acting right, Or YOU Don't listen, may YOU ain't shit!! IJS~ Stop pointing the finger and take a long hard look in the mirror. What about you? Are you ready to be in a relationship? Are you a Bit HOE-ish? Still got some side dick and/or dicks out there??! IJA~ If you're not ready, then maybe he's just reacting to your Chi/Energy. Stop tryin to lay blame and just Be STILL. If you two are meant to be, then it'll pop off, if not stop tryin to force it and stop lyin to yourself, if you're out there PHUKIN different folks, he is TOO!!

You know what they say, "Can't turn a HOE into a housewife and You show can't make a PIMP Playhouse!" Happy Friday! And once again I'm Just Sayin.....

...From the mind of a True Southern Belle.

It's raining in DC...

I am here on business and the weather is not the best, but it's aight. I've been talking about moving out of San Diego for over 5 years, 1st it was Atlanta, but it's only good for crackin off, scrip clubs and a nice short haircut, too plastique for my taste. Then It was Bham and Lawd, knows I loves the crib, but I just ain't ready for that yet ;) I considered DC and I just couldn't see it, why? I couldn't say. But I'll be up here a lot more for the next year...we'll see! The Sweetener and I just closed on a new home, so we'll be in SD for at least another 5 years!!!
...From the mind of a True Southern Belle.

Your Bread & Butta!!!

Now, I was just listening to an old Beenie Siegal song with that exact title. Now exactly what does it mean to let a Neer be your Bread and Buttah, you may ask?? That means he is the Chix Wings and/or the Gizzards and the Hot Sauce, the Greens and the smoked meat, the car and the gas, the RED Kool Aid and the SUGAR!!!
Awww Damn!! I know, I know, you ain't mean to let it go that far, I know sugah, I know!!

He is everythang and everythang revolves around him and mostly likely his PAPERWORKS, his MONIES, his Cheeze!!!

His Cake, his scratch, his scrilla, oh you damn show undastands what I am speakin on!! U gets it!!

You can't NEVAH, EVAH, EVAH let no MAN be your Bread and Buttah!

Even if he is you betta not let him know that ish! Cuz that's when they tends to ack a monkey, cut da buck, show theys ass and all other sorts of FUCKERY!

On erythang I loves, BE YOUR OWN WOMAN and in turn you shall be your own bread & buttah!

If not @ least try to PHUCK with a Neer that at least works for a Bakery ;-)!!! DAMN!!!

Pick Two.....

Look at the above and pick 2 out the 3.  I know many will say "Good Looking" and "Intelligent", but are you willing to accept a smart "Emotionally Unstable" dude or chick? Remember, Pretty is, as Pretty does, I'm just sayin.... Off top physical attractiveness is what may draw you in, but can/will it keep you?  It will if you're really, really into that sort of thing.  I think that's pretty shallow to think that your hazel eyes or Phatt Tail could hide your intellectual ineptness, bipolar personality...for very long.  We tend to overlook certain character flaws if other certain characteristics are really pronounced! (wink, wink)   Or you may go with "Intelligent" and "Emotionally Stable", but do you really want to cupcake with a EWOK??!! (I know a few of my guhls will say, If he's smart & UN-Crazy, Uhhhh YEAH!!)   I know, I know, choices, choices....

Choices, we all have them and WE all are forced to make them.  Personally, I don't really like a dude that's toooo cute! If he's in the mirror more than I, then Naw I'm cool!  Even one that "Thinks" he's cute is a turn-off!  I can be an emotional creature and I need a somewhat emotionally stable dude to understand that facet of me, NOW what I am not is unstable, so the emotional rollercoaters that come with having that type of mate, NAW I am NOT willing to ride, no matter how "GOOD" the ride may be, feel me?? 

So you take the time and view the triangle and see what 2 sides are you looking for, better Yet WHAT 2 sides are you offering....

...From the mind of a True Southern Belle.

The names change........

*********************************True Story Time!!*************************** I was in Bham for my Annual Sabbatical, Aight it was Classic Weekend '09, BHAM Stand UP!! When I say it went down and it Was Poppin!! Mannnn, I almost had to forward my mail!! AnyWHO! So my girls took me erywhere, and I mean erywhere!! After Ovah-Crackin I am sitting with my Moms' in Pell City (located what seems like about 15 mins from The Body Tap in The "A" once again I'm just sayin...) it's quite a drive, but I am reliving the past week telling her my tales about my Bham Expeditions!!

So, I tells her we went to "The Cozy Corner" and she just sorta starting staring into space and starts snapping her fangers and starts laughing, so I was like what's funny Ma! She was like GUHL, I used to to go to The Cozy! I'm like huh? Yep, when I was 18!! Me & your Grandma!! Now, ya'll I was like, NAW!! She said Grandma used to wear her hot pink, hot shorts up in there and dance all night to the Rockola!! When I say I almost passed out!

And then I started tell her the FIRST Hater!! Ole guhl that works there wit "Fanger Waves" Ms. Carol or Lucy or sumthin anotha! Momma said, "Is she STILL there??" I was like huh? That lady has to be OVAH 68 yrs old!! She said that my Grandma didn't like her tail NEITHER!!! I was like I guess it runs in the Fam, cause she don't like me Neither!!  So we are chopping it up and Momma is rolling on the floor asking is the food still good and I'm like Yes Ma'am!!

Just a reminder of No matter where you go, there you are!!  I thought I was doing something NEW and My Momma & My Granny had already been there, done that and was on to the NEXT!!

I guess it is true, the names change but the game is still the same and at the Same PLACE, No LESS!! AllReady!!!

I know I shouldna Left you, without a strong beat to step to...

Yeah, yeah, yeah I know!! Where you been Guhl? You ain't posted ISH!! I've been reading and re-reading yo old stuff!! HUMPH!!

OK, let me do a quick 2009 rundown on what I had crackin....

-I broke up with him (You know who), we got back together and broke up AGAIN!!
-I focused more on my spirit, I started back attending Bible Study and church on a regular (Got my seat back, uummm thank you and yes Imma need you to SLIDE Down, NAH!)
-I learned how to do the Cupid Shuffle (Now I need a bar of the MJ slide mess!!)
-I went to LONDON, TOKYO, Miami, Atlanta, NYC and BHAM & CRACKED OFF!! Yes Ma'am!!
-I cleaned and purged the closets (both of them), I donated, I prayed, I meditated!
-I got mad love from my girlfriends (As usual!!)
-I reconnected with my family in The "D"!!
-I went to B'ham for Magic City Classic and CLOWNEDIDIDIDDD!! Hey, Georgia May!!
-I met somebody at home, he turned out to be a CLOWN!! A cutey, but still a CLOWN!! BUT It's all LOVE!!
-I went backwards, I went forward, I got off the Emotional Roller coaster and Sat my HINDPART DOWN!!
-I fell out with my Blackberry and fell head ovah heels in love with the IPhone!!
-I started with them Dang Kettle bells and now I'm Feeling like I just got outta the Penitentiary, Yeah On SWOLE!! (U gone eat yo cornbread??!!)
-I grew tired of looking for him and let him find me.... and then I Exhaled!!!
-My baby came back home, and I am now a momma again you know, cooking, admonishing and the like, checkin in and out like a LIBERRY BOOK!! Lol!!
-I am in love with me (Never fell out of that)
-I am a master chef and seamstress (it's all in my mind like Mariah Carey)!!
-I met FaceBook and my whole life changed! It's like I imagined Crack would be, but more.
-I reconnected with my Bham fam!! Hey ya'll!! Now I always feel like I am at home! I can now slow down the pace and breathe!
-Yes, I am still in love with Stringer Bell and had a fall out with him (the old boo) about a tv character, yeah, insecurity AIN'T cute!!
-I remembered who I belonged to and let all that MESS GO!!
----All In all 2009 was FIYAH and I would do it ALL OVER AGAIN!!

…. Here’s the problem with most Men! (yeah, another Chris Brown post)

(Found this on one of my fave BLOGS and just had to share, http://ohellnawlblog.com/newohnblog/2009/02/10/heres-the-problem-with-most-men-yeah-another-chris-brown-post/)


The problem with most men is that they are still b!tchazz boys. Physical adult males for the most part refuse to grow up and become the men that nature and God intended them to be. Most males are afraid of manhood. Afraid of responsibility. Afraid of facing the problems of reality and tackling those problems with the coolness and intelligence of a well reared woman. That’s fvcking right.

This fvcking post is about b!tchazz motherfvckers that like to lay their fvcking hands on women. Now before Folk gets too far on this topic, WOMEN! Any man put his d@mned hands on you DO NOT DESERVE THE PU$$Y YOU SIT ON OR THE TOKEN OF YOUR TIME EVER! Neither does that man gets a second chance to put his hands on you. LEAVE! PERIOD. End of discussion.
Now to you punkazz motherfvckers who like to hit women. You deserve to have your nuts shaved with a cheese grater. No excuse, no pause. Salt application afterwards.

Now, to this motherfvcking child known as Chris Brown. And Chris, if you hit that young woman then you showed the world that you are indeed still a b!tchazz whiney azz hairless balls b!tch! Word on the street is that the fight escalated as a result of Chris allegedly confronting Rhianna over giving him an alleged STD… [pause] See boys are taught to deal with life physically. To confront their problems with force. With attitude. With POWER! Wrong…

Now a female co-worker of Folk’s brought up the possibility that Rhianna possibly didn’t know she had a (alleged) STD. Wrong… Artist are commodities of wealthy people. Modern day minstrel actors, whose primary goal is to make more money for their masters while they earn meager bread crumbs in comparison to what they make for their pimps. And these top dollar pimps gonna make sure their hos are in top condition. Hell, Folk wouldn’t be surprised if doctors and nurses didn’t sleep with these fvckers.

…but Folk digress. …”But Folk, this lady drop a disease on your boy. Sheer reason to check a b!tch right there.” Folk heard this argument too today… Uhhhhhhh…. NO! Again, the problem with boyz. “Okay Folk, How would you handle this?” Folk would handle a situation like this like a well reared woman. Tactfully, precisely, and decisively.

Doctor tells Folk he has STD. Folk questions if it’s curable. Folk spends excessive amounts of loot to find out if sidekick was aware she had disease without letting sidekick know. Finds out sidekick didn’t know. Everything okay. Moves on together, discussing how to deal with the issue together.
Finds out sidekick knew some time ago, before she started kicking it with Folk?…

“Hey baby. How you doing today? Fine? Good? How was your day at work? That’s great baby. Folk cooked for you. Got dinner all ready for you and thangs. Sit right on down here. Yeah. Got these candles and thangs lit for ya.”[says prayer and begins eating]
“You like? Folk glad you like.” [Chats the rest of dinner away and gives kiss on forehead] “Got some desert for ya! It’s your favorite.” [brings ol'girl's favorite desert to table and queues song by Orange Juice Jones, "Walking in the Rain"]

“Dig in… Oh Folk forgot to tell you Folk had a meeting last week. Yeah, Folk went to get checked up and thangs. Folk had a little itch. Doc, said Folk had contracted a STD. You believe that baby? Folk told that doc surely he was bugging because Folk don’t sleep around. Folk been here with you baby and you alone and Folk knows Folk’s baby ain’t been sleeping around or got no STD, right baby!?! [cuts off any attempt to speak] “You enjoy your dinner? Come on, Let’s not be late to Clive Davis little pre Grammy party.”

Dances the night away at Clive’s party as if nothing happens. Goes to Grammys and do my thang with girl in tow. After Grammys take ol’girl out on the carpet, holding hands, and have a brief interview with selected news crew with video cameras running.

“Yeah, we still kicking it and Folk loved ol’girl until Folk found out she gave Folk a STD.” “Here’s the Paper work.” [starts crying and sobbing] “Folk can’t believe she did this to Folk. Folk loved here like no one else, Folk can’t take this no more.”

[hands copies of the doctor results (for both parties of course), and runs to Folk's car quickly and alone. having told body guard via text while back stage to keep ol'girl away from me and the car. Leaving ol'girl right there to deal with the mess she began.]

No fighting. No charges. No jail. No punkazzness. Just pure finesse. Grabs some sympathy points in the process. Teaches all other future women ‘not to fvck with Folk’ in one nice swoop. Sure there would be some haters. But let the haters hate while the money pile up. Can’t make no money in the pen. Folk out for advertisement dollars. Sign Folk up for Monostat.

Men, be men. Treat your women right and you’ll never have to worry about this sh!t unless she’s just a pure evil vaginal mucus spawn from the alley way of hades. Then you’re just fvcked. No matter what, don’t hit women…. Well unless she’s beating yo’ azz like a man. Then…. Nahhhhh… Just kidding. Speak on it!

What Michelle Can Teach Us

Forget Claire Huxtable.

She could be a real-life role model for black women.
Allison Samuels

NEWSWEEKFrom the magazine issue dated Nov 10, 2008

www.newsweek.com/id/166857

Throughout this long, tense election, everyone has focused on the presidential candidates and how they'll change America. Rightly so. But selfishly, I'm more fascinated by Michelle Obama and what she might be able to do, not just for this country, but for me as an African-American woman. As the potential First Lady, she would have the world's attention. And that means that for the first time people will have a chance to get up close and personal with the type of African-American woman they so rarely see.

Usually, the lives of black women go largely unexamined. The prevailing theory seems to be that we're all hot-tempered single mothers who can't keep a man and, according to CNN's "Black in America," documentary, those of us who aren't street-walking crack addicts are on the verge of dying from AIDS.

As writer Rebecca Walker put it on her Facebook page: "CNN should call me next time they really want to show diversity and meet real black women that nobody seems to talk about.''
Like Walker, I too know more than my share of black women who have little in common with the black female images I see in the media. My "sistafriends" are mostly college educated, in healthy, productive relationships and have a major aversion to sassy one-liners. They are teachers, doctors and business owners. Of course, there are those of us who never get the chance to pull it together. And we accept and embrace them—but their stories can't and shouldn't be the only ones told.

Yet pop culture continues to hold a very unevolved view of African-American women. Take HBO's new vampire saga "True Blood." Even in the world of make-believe, black women still can't escape the stereotype of being neck-swirling, eye-rolling, oversexed females raised by our never-married, alcoholic mothers.

Where is Claire Huxtable when you need her?
These images have helped define the way all black women are viewed, including Michelle Obama. Before she ever gets the chance to commit to a cause, charity or foundation as First Lady, her most urgent and perhaps most complicated duty may be simply to be herself.

It won't be easy. Since her emergence on the national scene, Obama has been deemed radical, divisive and the adjective that no modern-day black woman can live without: angry. Thankfully, so far, she's endured these demeaning accusations with a smile and shrug—at least in public. But if she does end up in the White House, continuing to dial back her straightforward, vibrant personality isn't the answer. In the same way that Eleanor Roosevelt, Jackie Kennedy and Hillary Clinton each redefined what it meant to be First Lady, Michelle will forge her own path. Not only will she draw the usual criticisms, but she'll be open to some new ones too.

I eagerly await the public reaction if Sasha and Malia ever sport cornrows or afro puffs on the South Lawn. And if Michelle decides to champion a program that benefits black youth, will her critics slam her for being too parochial?
To be fair, Hillary Clinton's early involvement in her husband's administration (think health-care reform) brought a major backlash. But there's no real evidence of Michelle Obama's desire to be a huge presence in her husband's potential administration. Besides helping military families, we don't even have many clues about what projects she might tackle.

Whatever she does, I hope she doesn't fall victim to critics with little point of reference. Take this month's issue of Town and Country magazine. An article—written by a white female reporter—offers advice to both potential First Ladies. The writer suggests Cindy McCain let her "personality and experience shine" and motivate others to give back.

For Michelle, the writer suggests that she avoid "popping off when your guard is down" and to be careful "about how, when and if she injects her ethnicity … into her platform as First Lady."
The underlying message is that the last thing anyone needs to be reminded of is that Michelle Obama is all black, unlike her husband, who is mixed—as the writer points out for seemingly no reason.
And that speaks to the larger issue that Michelle Obama could pose for the media.

Because few mainstream publications have done in-depth features on regular African American women (and no, Halle Berry, Oprah and Beyoncé don't count), little is known about who we are, what we think and what we face on a regular basis. For better or worse, Michelle will become a stand-in for us all.

Just as she will have her critics, she will also have millions of adoring fans who usually have little interest in the First Lady. African-American blogs such as Sisterlicious, Black Girls Rock and That Black Girl Group have all written about what they'd like to see Michelle bring to the White House—mainly showing the world that a black woman can support her man and raise a strong black family. As contributor Felicia Jones wrote on one blog, "Michelle Obama will be the hero my little girls have been looking for. The hero doesn't have to shake her booty or point her finger to get noticed and respected. My little girls finally have a role model."

Michelle will have to work to please everyone—an impossible task. But for many African-American women like me, just a little of her poise, confidence and intellect will go a long way in changing an image that's been around for far too long.