How is it you are unable to pass "Your past..."

"Everytime I try to leave, something keeps pulling me back..." I remember loving that song by Chingy. But now it seems to apply to my life. Why is it when you are just chillin solo you can't make neer call u, but as soon as you decently start to converse and do a lil sum sum, neers start calling you, yo momma and erybody else trying to see What's up? Ain't that some BULLSHYT!!!!